so wrong...

With all the drama surrounding Chris Brown and Rihanna, domestic violence is a hot button topic these days. Even all the celebrities are chiming in, giving their opinions on a situation and relationship that they know nothing about, and I am about to do the same.

Now, I have been blessed to have never had to deal with domestic violence personally, but as a feisty female who has been in more bar fights than she cares to admit, some girls deserve to get hit. Don’t get me wrong, it is NEVER ok for a guy to hit a girl and I am in no way condoning domestic violence, but let’s be real. Sometimes, it’s not all the man’s fault. Again, I am only reflecting the views of one ignorant human being, but I refuse to believe all relationships are like those portrayed in the movies on Lifetime. You know the ones I am talking about- “I am a Closet Wife Beater, But You Have a Drug Problem, and Our Kid Has a Strain of Tourettes That Causes Him to Sleep with His Teachers.” (Don’t even act like you’ve never spent a lazy Sunday afternoon with chocolate covered pretzels with one of those on television.)

People I know in the “business” have said that Rihanna and Chris Brown have always had a very tumultuous, violent relationship. They were constantly bickering and scrapping with each other. I don’t think its fair to act like Chris Brown was the only person to blame. I’m sorry, if my significant other is biting and scratching me, I am for damn sure hitting him back, man or woman. And yes, he may have taken it too far (we’ve all seen the pictures), but I bet if we saw a picture of him post-incident, we’d probably see that Rihanna held her own in that matchup. Homegirl is Caribbean, and they are passionate, to put it lightly, on top of which she looks like she could beat the crap out of anybody she wanted to. I’m sure Chris had a few bumps and bruises of his own.

Back to my point – who’s to say that violent partnerships rest solely on the man’s shoulders? Has anybody ever watched the Bad Girls Club? I would bet my Marc Jacobs bag that every single one of those girls beat the shit out of their man at some point in their life. Let’s examine Mike Tyson and Robin Givens. You KNOW that Robin is not the kind of girl to sit down and meekly take a beating.

I’d bet my right leg that Tyson got that ear biting thing from Robin.




Note: Domestic violence is NOT a joke. The views above are an attempt to make light of an extremely serious situation. If you or someone you know is in a violent relationship, please visit www.domesticviolence.org for more information.